Stress

You know we all have stresses and outside factors that influence things. I've forgotten a lot that I was thinking about/how I was feeling last semester in the midst of all the stress. But the book the 4 agreements has brought me back to the reality of how I want to live my life. In all the pettiness of other people I'd forgotten this. I need to live my life for me, not for anyone else, not about anyone but for me.

the 4 agreements is a book by Don Miguel Ruiz.

The first agreement is Be Impeccable with you word which Ruiz states is the hardest one to honor sometimes but also the most important. It is basically your bond for the things in life that you are attached to and concerned about. Also it shows people how you can stick to something and not break your word on it. So if you make a decision then backtrack on it, I guess you're not very impeccable with your word. I am trying to be better about this. I'll probably make a list of things I want to work on personally then post it for me to see only. Most everything on this journal is open but something like that will be kept private.

The second agreement is don't take anything personally. This pretty much means learning to let things roll off your back. That people's realities and perceptions are their own and rarely have anything to do with anyone else. Therefore don't take the poision that people toss at you. That's what they want. They want to make you hurt, to injure you and to make themselves feel better. However, they're being shallow, selfish and narrow minded. You don't need this in your life, and if you cut people like this out of your life then you'll be better off and they will be left to flounder and learn to navigate life without giving injury to people.

The third agreement is Don't Make Assumptions- Seems very straight forward yet everyone does it all the time. They put their own meaning on things whether or not that was the original intended meaning. When you make assumptions you are assuming they are real whether or not in reality they are or not. When you do this you're just making an ass of yourself, seems people do that more often then not these days.

The Fourth Agreement is Always do Your best- which sounds pretty simple but isn't a lot of the time. In always doing your best you have to make an agreement with yourself and do what you feel needs to be done for yourself.

These are the things that I need to remember in life, not to worry about selfish/shallow people who try to bring me down by being judgemental and hypocritical. I don't need people like that in my life, I know this. Also, not to take personally what people say- my reality is the one that I create. If people want to be a certain way they're entitled I just don't have to listen to their BS. To always do my best and to be impeccable with my word.

I guess that's where my list comes in again. I work better with lists, I can lay out what I want, and just cross it off as I go. Sounds easy, but can be somewhat difficult for me. I let stress get to me too easily. Time to get to work!